DIFFERENT SEXUALITIES DEFINITIONS

Homosexual
Someone who is sexually or romantically attracted to people of the same sex or gender.

Bisexual
People within the bi+ community define bisexuality in various ways. Some identify as bisexual, while others use pansexual, queer, fluid, or no label at all to describe their attractions to more than one gender.

Demisexual
Demisexual people only or mostly feel sexually attracted to people that they have an emotional bond with.

Heterosexual
People who are attracted to members of the opposite sex/gender.

Gay
Identifying as a man and being attracted to other people who identify as men.

Lesbian
Identifying as a woman and being attracted to other people who identify as women

Queer
An umbrella term for anyone outside of the heterosexual norm. It can be used as both an identity and as a term to define LGBTQ+ communities.

Straight
People who are attracted to people of the opposite sex/genders

Asexual
Experiencing little or no sexual desire.

Aromantic
Experiencing little or no romantic attraction, regardless of sex or gender.

Trans
People who do not identify with the gender they were assigned at birth.

Cisgender
People who identify with the gender they were assigned at birth.

Pansexuality
Sexual, romantic or emotional attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity.

Intersex
A word that’s used for someone whose body doesn’t fit the medical definition of a male or female body. People who are intersex can have genes, hormones, or body parts that don’t fit into the male or female categories, or might overlap. There are a lot of ways people can be intersex.

Two-spirit
Refers to a person who identifies as having both a masculine and a feminine spirit, and is used by some Indigenous people to describe their sexual, gender and/or spiritual identity. As an umbrella term it may encompass same-sex attraction and a wide variety of gender variance.

Uncertain
Sometimes we are unsure of our sexuality at a certain time and that is perfectly okay!

Problematic queer narratives

Representation of queer and trans characters in media has very rarely been unproblematic. In the past, queer and trans characters barely existed at all and if they did, they were largely inaccurate and reinforced harmful stereotypes.

These days, you have probably noticed that queer and trans characters in tv and movies are becoming more and more common (yay!).
But it’s important to remain critical of the representations that we are given.

Eric and Adam, Sex Education

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Simon, Love, Simon

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Jughead Jones, Riverdale

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Peach Salinger, You

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Cece Drake, Pretty Little Liars

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Ivy should not have to choose between men and women…period! Sexuality is fluid for many people and though there can be times when our sexuality feels more fluid than other times, that doesn’t mean that bisexuality is a temporary phase that will result in a neatly boxed “straight” or “gay” identity. 

Also, saying that Ivy has to eventually decide if she wants to date “men or women” assumes that bisexual people are only attracted to binary genders which is simply untrue! 

What is wrong with the way Sabine and Ivy’s classmates talk about them?

It erases and oversimplifies Ivy’s bisexual identity.
It is better to have these conversations over text so that no one overhears.
It puts pressure on Ivy to choose between men and women when she should have time to make this decision on her own.

Testimonials

I was really young when I found out what sex was. My older friends told me and I was terrified. I didn’t know if it was true or not. I come from Iran and there, in schools, no one mentions what sex is and most people learn informally through gossip and friends. I didn’t have any sources to ask people about it and I was scared to ask my parents so I was just stuck with that information. It would have been really helpful to go somewhere trustworthy to get answers. I wonder if I had learned in a different way if it would have been less scary of a thing for me.

(Anonymous) 

 

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